The Oedipus Complex is a Freudian term named after a Greek myth in which a man kills his father and unknowingly sleeps with his mother.

Freud described how as a young child, a boy develops an unconscious infatuation towards his mother, whilst at the same time fearing his father and viewing him as a rival. None of this usually happens at a conscious level. It results in an unconscious conflict because the boy desires the love of his mother yet fears the consequences from his father -the unconscious mind at such an age lacks the wisdom to truly understand the situation.

Often, the unconscious will find a satisfactory way of dealing with this conflict. However, in many cases, the solution is far from perfect. The consequences are many fold and may include: a boy who becomes an over competitive man (wants really to beat his father), a man who finds it hard to combine love and sex, a man who wants his wife to mother him etc.

Women experience a similar conflict called the Electra Complex (during the time of formation they often dream of being pursued by a witch (their mother). An unresolved complex has similar consequences to those described for a man. Women will often seek out a man who treats them similar to their father, or who even shares similar physical characteristics. Sometimes, they will do exactly the opposite.

A leading UK hypnotherapist estimates that 75% of the population need to resolve their complex, and that 50% of all heart attacks are caused by these complexes.

It should be noted that many therapists dismiss such Freudian therapies these days. Indeed, many of Freud's theories have been found to be incorrect or outdated now. However, equally true is that he made a huge contribution to the development of psychotherapy and that some of his theories were very precise.
My experience is that the Oedipus and Electra complexes do very much exist and that a major benefit is reaped by resolving them.

CASE STUDY
THE 40 YEAR OLD BOY
When Alan (name changed) walked into my consulting rooms I estimated his age at 20. During the interview he revealed his age as 40.

He was unable to maintain a relationship for more than a week with any woman, had only had sexual relations a few times in his life, and still lived with his mother. It was apparent that he idolised his mother.

During the third session of therapy I explained the Oedipus complex to him, and he surprised me by saying that he was consciously in love with his mother, and that he had for no apparent reason always hated his father--in fact he had a violent wish to kill him.

The Oedipus session with Alan was the most extreme I have ever witnessed. He jumped out of the chair, threatened me (projecting his father onto me) and then fell on the floor, sobbing whilst banging his fists on the carpet.  This went on for over an hour. Finally, he got up and walked out.

The next week he returned and was clearly a different man. He had a maturity about him, and his violent manner had been replaced with a calm confidence.

By the time we reached the end of therapy he had moved away from his mother's house and had been seeing a lady for 4 weeks. I heard from him a year later, just after his wedding.

Resolution of the Oedipus or Electra complex is not usually so dramatic. Typically though, clients do report a change in their relationships and indicate that they have found peace within themselves.

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